It's you I like by Mr. Rogers

It's you I like, it's not the things you wear. It's not the way you do your hair, but it's you I like. The way you are right now, the way down deep inside you, not the things that hide you. Not your diplomas...They're just beside you. But it's you I like, every part of you, your skin, your eyes, your feelings, whether old or new. I hope that you'll remember; even when you're feeling blue, that it's you I like, it's you yourself, it's you, it's you I like. -Mr. Rogers

Is this how it feels

I've always wondered how
But seems to be happening now
This feeling I don't know
Soon beginning to let me blow

Is this how it feels?
Or I'm just havin' normal thrills?

Is this how it feels?
Or I'm  just violating wills?

I've always wondered how
If it is what happens now
Knowing someone finally cares
Knowing someone finally cares

Can you be honest with me?
Is this how it feels?
Can you please tell me?
Is this how it thrills?

Or is it just the normal way?
Is this how it feels?
Or it just happens this way?
Is this how it feels?

No matter how or if now
Dear God make me strong
If it is now or not now
Dear God I hope I'm going wrong

Is this how it feels,
When I finally meet you.
Pretty sure there are better thrills
I'd rather wait for you

Dear Lord hold my heart
To not fall for what's not right
Dear God hold my breath
So that I will not fret

Is this how it feels,
When I finally meet you?
Pretty sure there will be better thrills
I'd rather wait for you

The Joy of Waiting

I'm done. I'm tired of trying to guess if this person or that person is the one for me. I know very well by now that this won't work if I am trying to be in control of it. Trying to make my own love story will never work. It's  time to stop the guessing game and start living my life. To live my life the way God wanted me to live. To be the woman God wants me to be. A woman who is of reverent behavior (Titus 2:3), careful of her speech, and teacher of good things. A woman who uses her power to influence people for the better. Many times have been already wasted doing trial and error and try to be God. I've made this decision a long time ago but trust me it's also a decision one has to face each day. We need to ask God for grace to help us overcome going back to trying to "looking for the right person" and instead "be the right person".

Let God fulfill His promise to give you His best and be occupied fulfilling your purpose as a man or woman. Then as time goes by you'll be surprised that you've achieved a lot of meaningful things. You will rejoice for the fact  that you chose to follow God; and make a difference in the years of waiting for the person God has prepared for you, instead of wasting time thinking who it will be. Then when you finally meet the person you can say that you have been faithful to the one you were made for.

That my friend is the joy of waiting!

Do you love me? Show Me

 I love you. Three words that form a phrase of great importance to most of us if not all. This phrase have been used for ages from generation to generation as a declaration of the person to another of great value. But in the generation today I have seen how this phrase's value has been taken for granted. Many times it has been said by various people in various places without meaning it. I've been thinking it myself how many times I've said, I love you to anybody without really meaning it? Reflecting on it, those were the moments I regret doing. I want to make sure that whenever I tell someone I love you that it really comes from my heart.  Not only was this phrase taken for granted by just using it without meaning it. Many times we also keep saying we love people but we never take the effort to show them we love them. The best expression of love we could ever do is by our actions. If we love someone our every action must show it.

How then can we show them? Sometimes it's not about how much money you spent on someone by buying them gifts or chocolates. Sometimes it's just making time to be with them and listen to their stories no matter how much you want to do the talking. Sometimes it's doing little things that could lessen their burden or something thoughtful like making them a cup of coffee or fixing their bed for them. Every time you have to show them your protecting them by protecting your future together. You can protect your future by deciding for both of you (if you are couples) by preserving sex for marriage--that is protecting your future family too. You protect your love by showing them you can wait for the right time. For some you can even try to make them smile by your funny jokes or showing funny characters. You can show someone you love him or her by going out of your comfortable way to make them feel your love. This time show them that you really meant that I love you. What you do for someone will not be forgotten instead cherished forever. They may not show their appreciation right away but you never know what impact and joy it will bring in their hearts.


Of course I do not want you to keep yourself from saying I love you but make sure you really mean it this time.

Jesus asked Peter three times if he loved Jesus because He wanted to put an emphasis
on what it requires to really love someone--genuinely.

The third time he said to him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?”
   Peter was hurt because Jesus asked him the third time, “Do you love me?” He said, “Lord, you know all things; you know that I love you. Jesus said, “Feed my sheep”-John 21:7

Jesus seemed to be saying, "Do you love me? Show me" by taking care of my sheep and by feeding my sheep.

Surfing the right waves of Feelings

Truly great things comes to those who clean! yahoo! As I was looking through the recipe books and trying to fix them I saw a paper with a very good quotation,

 "Feelings are much like waves, we can't stop them from coming

but we can choose which one to surf."   -Jonatan Martensson

 

I find myself agreeing to the quotation and thinking through how this has been true in my very own life. There have been many waves of feelings that swept into my life since I was a child until I face each day. These feelings have come from the daily interactions I had with different kinds of people; from having encountered new friends, from having experienced kindness or rudeness from people; from the guys I've met; from encountering a natural or man-made disaster;  from reading books and watching movies; from messages God has spoken through different people; or from the travels I have made. All of these have become like waves of feelings that truly we cannot stop from coming. There are feelings I'm glad I've surfed and there are those I regret I did.

We were created to have feelings. Feelings just come and go because we are created that way--to have feelings. 

The good thing about feelings is that "...we can choose which one to surf." Whatever feelings comes and give us a wave from our normal life we have the capacity to prevent ourselves from going with the wave. To illustrate, fine, I'll give you a chance. Let's go to your favorite topic-- "Feelings toward a guy or girl you met". After all this is the most dangerous and common feelings we get that we must know what to do with.

Let me ask you a question. How many guy or girls have you met that you feel you like since you were given that idea of "liking someone"? REALLY? It can't be just one...Naah! I myself can count at least 5. Wait, don't get me wrong here. I'm not talking about the boyfriend or girlfriends or MUs you've had I am just talking about someone you "like" just like facebook. Haha. The point is you will face different people in the different places and these situation may face you at least twice if not five times. COME ON! Let's be honest. Now, how many times have you let yourself surf those feelings and end up hurting or if not hurting at least realizing the person is not for you.

My friend, the good news is, "If there's a will there's a way"--If you want to control your feelings you can control it. If you do not want to control it then would you want to be someone who has surfed too many feelings that are not supposed to be surfed and end up drowning or being eaten by the shark of brokenness. Then when the time comes for you to express your feelings to the RIGHT person God has prepared for you you've got nothing left. Of course God will restore you once you repent. I have experienced His restoration from surfing the wrong waves when my feelings must be dedicated to serving Him. But if you already knew that YOU SHOULD NOT waste your feelings to what is not for you then why bother wasting your time surfing the wrong wave? Why not give your feelings to God is worth all of it NOW? I say, that's the best wave to surf--feelings for God and then one day He will give you the RIGHT person in His RIGHT timing.

As The Fray sings, "Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same"--All At Once

Yes it's hard that's why we need God to help us have SELF-CONTROL. :) I choose to be at His side because He knows every right and safe wave to surf. Do you?

Dream vs. Fantasy

We are dreamers because it is free to dream. Why not dream? Through the many dreams from different people came about the telephone, the computer, the iphone, the disneyland, and so on. None of the successes of today would have happened if no one had dreamed in the past.

We have dreamed of things when we were young and it resulted to what we have achieved today.

And yet here comes another word which is fantasy that many of us often mistake for a dream. Fantasy is defined in the dictionary as

the forming of mental images, especially wondrous or strange fancies; imaginative conceptualizing (dictionary.com).

In simple terms it is similar in a dream that it has not happened yet but it is unrealistic and is only based on imagination.

Influenced by the media and literature we have one way or another given in to fantasy. Anne of Green Gables says, "...where there's lots of room for imagination." Why, if not for imagination writers wouldn't have written very good stories and produced very good movies. So maybe the next question would be why not fantasize?

The verse from 1 Corinthians 10:23 always reminds me,
"Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"--but I will not be mastered by anything." -NIV

So maybe then you should ask yourself "what are the benefits of a dream?" Then, go to the question, "What are the benefits of fantasy?" Go ahead and name them. I have said the results in the earlier paragraphs. Now let's go to the second section of the verse, "Everything is permissible for me--but I will not be mastered by anything." Take note, "I WILL NOT BE MASTERED BY ANYTHING". 

Go ahead dream but make sure you act out your  beneficial dream..Go ahead fantasize if you want to but make sure it doesn't become something that occupies too much of your time that you no longer have time to live the day that is to live REALITY. 

Hey, there are great things ahead of you such as living out your dream. Be careful of your fantasies that you might not be succeeding in living your dream because you are ENCHANTED by your fantasies. Anyway, mostly your fantasies are centered on romance or adventures found in books or movies made outside the real world.

I say it's better to face the REAL adventures than just lie down and think...and think...and think...then die.